tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-314477169182447367.post1462583400142305433..comments2023-10-26T07:46:17.156-07:00Comments on Melbourne Musing: Update to Googling old friends...Nicole Hayeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01508798620704860433noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-314477169182447367.post-83448709905158662992012-05-09T15:15:14.610-07:002012-05-09T15:15:14.610-07:00I encourage Knight's moves. And rooks, too for...I encourage Knight's moves. And rooks, too for that matter. :-)<br /><br />Honesty is important in writing but I'd place one caveat on that: sometimes it might just be emotional honesty, with the facts altered. That's OK too. Our stories need some sense of universality for us to connect with our readers - specifics are less important than the broader space of the emotional journey.<br /><br />Your memoir sounds fascinating. Will be sure to look out for it. Congratulations!Nicole Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01508798620704860433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-314477169182447367.post-51407137572936004672012-05-08T18:40:30.871-07:002012-05-08T18:40:30.871-07:00I always find it hard to go back to the past. When...I always find it hard to go back to the past. When the past enters my present, I find it unsettling, even when it enters in an innocent way - like an old colleague contacting me on a business matter. This will be nothing like the misgivings you experience, Nicole. The past, for me, is a dangerous country. It contains a me who no longer exists. In revisiting it, I have to recall that former me. And also, moving forward, ever forward, has been my way of rescuing myself from relationships I don't know how to deal with.<br /><br />This must sound mysterious. I want to avoid being specific, using specific instances ot illustrate my meaning, because I have a fear of exposure. We all do. I know we all do.<br /><br />OK, here's something. My memoir is coming out in June. It deals with horrendous family issues, and has been called "honest" and "candid". These are curious terms to use. What the writer or speaker means is that I disclose scenes that other people would rather conceal from the world. Honesty and candour in this context is always the humilations and terrors that another person would rather not divulge. But I have gone over them again and again in the therapy room and in doing so have robbed them of their power to mortify me. <br /><br />This is a long way from your blog, Nicole! My mind is a chessboard and I often make knight's moves.<br /><br />Cheers, SydneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com